Others say “communication.”
The American Heritage Dictionary says “communication is the act or process of communicating; the imparting or interchange of thoughts, opinions, or information by speech, writing, or signs; transfer of information from one cell or molecule to another, as by chemical or electrical signals.”
We find this interesting, because all these definitions imply that there is something “sending out” a communication, but nowhere do the definitions identify by what means an “interchange” takes place. If everyone’s talking, is anyone communicating?
By now you’ve noticed the one word that is conspicuously absent in the definition of communication: listening.
In our dictionary search for “listening,” we found the following:
To give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing; give ear.
To give attention with the ear. Yeah, that pretty much sums up the level of listening in most relationships.
To give ear. Really? What else you got? When we need to be listened to, presenting one’s ear is not nearly enough.
When communication is more than talking and listening.
The Torah teaches us, right at the beginning, that God created the entire world with words. “Let there be light,” He said. “And there was light.” (Gen. 1:3). Similarly, by speaking, God created the heavens, the earth, the sea, vegetation, the sun, moon and stars, fish, fowl, animals and people.
Kabbalah teaches us that through communication—speaking—we too have the ability to create. Words create worlds.
So if you answered that the most important component of a marriage is love, or romance, or commitment, we say that to the degree that we can work on mastering talking and listening, we can powerfully transform all those other elements.
How can we bring listening to a dramatically altered level, so that both husband and wife can feel, not only heard, but nurtured, fulfilled, enhanced, brought closer and connected.
And we guarantee that if you work hard at understanding this concept—toil over it—it will change your life and the lives of everyone around you: your spouse, your children, your co-workers, your friends, your community and your planet!
You know the line at the end of a contract, “By signing this document, I agree to the terms and conditions enumerated therein?” Well, by turning this page, you are agreeing to undertake this concept. Ein breirah. There is no going back.
Are you ready?